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With the uncertainties and craziness that has identified 2020 so far, we are sure that some unsavory behaviors have crept in and now is the time to consider working on getting back to normal, before the start of school. Manners, identify behavior that is either acceptable or not acceptable and something that we all wish our children came equipped with, good ones that is. Etiquette is about the rules of a particular society and can vary from one culture to another.
Children do not instinctively know good manners. Parents need to teach and model good manners and instill the social skills of kindness, respect and politeness. Here is a list of what we consider the basics:
Manners at the table are also important, especially when eating out or at another home. The above list of manners applies, as well as the following:
Often times when you try to drill the rules of etiquette and good manners into children, they will just tune you out. The best way to teach manners is by example and another gentle, effective way is through books. When children hear stories of good manners, they are often more readily able to identify with the characters and the situation. Start simple with something like Nobunny’s Perfect or Llama Llama Time to Share by Anna Dewdney. Others to consider reading to your children might include Miss Molly’s School of Manners by James MacLaine, Mind Your Manners by Nicola Edwards, Mind Your Manners B.B. Wolf by Judy Sierra and Manners Mash-up: A Goofy Guide to Good Behavior by fourteen talented artists.
Refer to our list of Manners & Etiquette books for additional titles or ask your local librarian for additional suggestions or browse your local bookstore. A great way to find some older titles is at used book sales. That way the title will always be on your shelf waiting to be re-read when manners begin to slip.
Other ways to bring manners to the forefront is through board games such as Say Please, Little Pig or discuss with your children at dinner how they used their good manners that day. You can also have them keep a daily journal where they write down or illustrate something they did that day that showed them exhibiting good manners. This way children will think about and be aware of their good manners throughout the day.
Good manners make a good impression on others in daily life and they also help one to feel good about themselves, so help your child to learn and exhibit good manners in order to receive the positive attention they deserve.
We here at BTBL are not the only ones encouraging everyone to review and practice proper manners and etiquette. Just take a look at this list published by Country Living in December of 2019:
50+ Little Social Etiquette Rules Everyone Should Follow.
-Kate @ BTBL
We are three generations that seek a way to get back to basics. It’s not that we eschew technology, but sometimes simpler is better, especially in raising our children. Mom was a reading teacher, Amanda is an early childhood educator and Kate a children’s literature specialist and former school librarian along with the latest additions, a daughter (now 4) for Kate, and two sons (now 2 and 8 months) for Amanda. We advocate reading aloud, the simple toys that use imagination and encourage creativity and learning in the kitchen, which can be a fun mess but also teaches life skills. Join us in raising healthy, happy, inquisitive and intelligent children.
We are mom Sandra and daughters Amanda and Kate, all with backgrounds in literacy and education, who want to share our philosophy of taking the basics of life; books, simple toys that encourage play, imagination and creativity, and using cooking and baking to teach math and real life skills to raise happy, inquisitive children. Join us in exploring the old and the new and sifting through the myriad of research to consider what is best for our children.